Okay, so adhd meme ha ha funny whatever, serious question, it's as much a struggle for neurotypical people close to with adhd as it is for the afflicted themselves.
How does one bridge this gap? A neurotypical response is essentially "get the right meds and figure yourself out". But the neurodivergent response always seems to be "no. We make memes about it instead" like that's some kind of appropriate answer. I say this with some level of tounge-in-cheek, but it's what I've experienced. I have someone in my life who is medicated for adhd, but only has a mild positive response due to them. It's very difficult to support them when the outward appearance is they are unwilling to help themselves, even though I understand that it's not an unwillingness as much as an inability.
I bought a 2021 VW GLI, it has a software component called Car-net that has literally never worked. I don't even know what it's supposed to do. The little I've found is that it's supposed to have an app remote start and maybe a few other features, but according tk carnet, my car is still dealer owned. There have been at least six contacts to the car net folks from the dealer about the issue. I have a remote start on my FOB so whatever, but the car software support issue is so real. 🤷🏼♂️
I moderated a very small local county subreddit. It was a ghost town behind another larger county subreddit so when the blackout occurred, I just went dark. Received the same threatening dm everyone else received, then eventually removed as moderator. I suspect I have since been shadowbanned. I can't prove it, but replies to comments made are late now and after the conversation has moved on. Vote count also sits at one for 24 hours or so. Again, pure speculation. But something is weird and reddit has definitely changed in the last year. Coinsiding with this change, the user base has become significantly younger very quickly.
Ya know, I have no issues with 2fa, but I watch older folks struggle with it for some reason. They can't fathom the 'magic'. But I don't understand 2fa on utility websites that are only payment portals that obfuscate account numbers. Like "enable 2fa for account security!" why? Because someone who has found my credentials on the dark web might pay my bill?
I don't like the sleeve method. Grime just hangs out on your sleeves and then gets deep in the fibers. No thank you. I use my pinky and ring fingers when I absolutely have to.
ADHD isn’t a person’s problem, it’s a family problem
I'm going to hard disagree with you there. I think I understand where you're coming from, but it's wholly unacceptable to ask and expect society to bend to the needs of a neuro divergent person specifically with regard to ADHD. I'll concede that ADHD is a family problem when a person is younger and trying to find their way in the world, but at some point the afflicted needs to figure out how to deal with their neurodivergence and work within the world, and however that looks to them.
If I can be so bold, reading through your comments is frustrating, because while you might be a parent with ADHD (while assuming I'm not familiar with the struggles), and a parenting coach, it's clear to me that as a parent of a younger child, you very well may learn something you don't expect to in the years to come. It's easier to be an expert with regard to other peoples struggles on the internet. Some people are more compassionate, some people are more patient. But everyone has a limit. I don't believe you've found yours yet and I hope that you never do.
In the future, stick to your lane. This post, is helpful. You've responded to different lines of conversation and different levels of presence (and patience) in my communications with other people. At this point, after reading posts in which you've attacked me, why would I consider anything you've said? I understand that you might advertise as a parenting coach, but respectfully, you have a terrible way of framing your advice on a forum, especially if coming late to the party. You've responded to me emotionally, isn't that like the number one thing they teach you not to do as a coach or therapist?
Okay, I am REALLY not seeing all this education about ADHD you claim you have.
All of my experience with ADHD in and around my life I've never met someone as highly sensitive as my teen. I have never met anyone as bad as them. Ever.
Being combative is no way to engage in a conversation. Here's the deal, my teen is an adult now. This post came out of years of frustration, and adaptation, and guard railing, and thinking for them, and being their crutch, and being their advocate. You can blame me all you want, it doesn't change that they are my burden to raise and care for and I have done the best that I can with the tools that I have, which I admitted at the top weren't the greatest. I've tried to put the right people in place to assist where I was unable. What else would you have me do?
I hear you. I understand that ADHD is an executive function problem, well informed. The guardrails have been in place for years. We have provided tools. We have provided suggestions. Solutions, and even asked "What would work for you?". We've worked with therapists and psychologists to try to instill habits, but my teen is extremely headstrong and wickedly (falsely) independent. There is nothing more I can do for them unless they want to ask it of me.
My teen learns nothing from their experiences, and does nothing to instill their own good habits. At 18, what else am I supposed to do for them? I've been trying to help for years.
Talk to their psychiatrist about moving them to a non-stimulant
In my state, this was off the table at 16, when my teen decided not to waiver me to advocate for their mental health care because they were (and to some degree still are) convinced that I am the source of all that is wrong in their world. I can't fix that.
Because we apparently love A-B testing our government.