I remember being told similar things by my "friends" in school due to me being a femboy who wears girl's clothes, and also for being gay, they used a similar argument with me when I would respond to their questions about why I don't want to be a girl because I didn't know then a better way to respond and I wasn't aware of what they were doing to me. They also teased me for being gay telling me "boys aren't attracted to other boys". I'm very glad I found better friends, those people weren't really my friends, they treated me like dirt.
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