Dynamic is the the key word, it is not just you both both of your behaviours. Your wife needs to stop parenting you and give you responsibilities and trust you with them.
If i want to eend mail to the US from europe i can only buy stamps that link my identity ( payment info) to the piece of mail send. All other countries is no problem just to buy unidentifiable stamps
Can confirm , bought farm. No sewage , no water. (But fibre internet)