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I am several hundred opossums in a trench coat

  • In my opinion, it's not about trying to prove you're a genius, the key is that confidence and passion is infectious - people want to be around interesting people who are interested in them. Being skilled and well-read, as well as having hobbies lets you engage competently in deep conversation and have interesting qualities you can connect over or other people can grab on to.

  • I took estrogen and everything worked itself out from there~

    Seriously though, there were a few factors. It was a combinations of building up my confidence (that's how estrogen helped, turns out when you stop hating your body and life, you get more confident) and actively constructing situations that allowed me to connect and build relationships with people. I started a book club as a not so subtle way to get people in a room and talking to me, I reached out to people to have them round for dinner, I put a lot of effort into being thoughtful and kind. Developing a variety of hobbies and interests means I have plenty to talk about and lots to fill my time when I'm not doing that - a creative hobby is especially great for that.

  • I've done it because work is ✨desparate✨ and required I try it to learn it for some reason. I'm at a senior level. Generally I instructed it on the exact architecture and patterns I wanted, along with the broad classes and algorithms required. That meant it was left to do the individual procedure implementation that I might have instructed a junior developer to do while I managed more macro level concerns. It did surprisingly well, but this was on a greenfield project, so It would probably become excessively slow and error prone on a sufficiently large project.

  • Ukraine had guarantees before they were invaded

  • Most people don't have the skills to improve UX themselves and it shouldn't be a requirement of any software aiming for mass adoption. Frankly if you have users familiar with the product space reaching for a manual you've failed at UI design. It is entirely possible to design a new UX that people can still pick up and use largely without assistance

  • I'm finally at a place in my life where I like how I look and I enjoy the expression that an outfit + makeup affords me. Plus I get compliments from other queers! I generally dress pretty alt so I have a lot of options regarding shades of lipstick and looks for my eyes.

    I don't do this every day but if I'm going further than walking distance from my house and I've got the energy (which is pretty often) I will.

  • Have you considered that the reason the community isn't curious about your opinion is because they've heard it dozens of times before? Or maybe your opinion is just rude, or maybe you're posting it in a space that was never for you in the first place?

    The entire internet is not and should not be an endless space for you to engage with the MArKetPLAcE OF idEaS. There are plenty of dedicated spaces for that in which every party has already consented to that kind of discussion.

  • I was an ally™️ before I transitioned so already fairly invested and educated on the trans community, I spent a lot of my time advocating for us. So I knew that what I felt was gender euphoria when one day I saw a boys vs girls meme and imagined myself as a woman in a way I guess I never had before. It was pretty wild because I knew enough about the trans community to pretty accurately appreciate how much the trajectory of my life had changed in that moment.

    It made a lot of things line up as well. One time I told an old therapist that the discomfort I had with my body felt a lot like what trans people described as gender dysphoria but "I didn't want to appropriate their experiences" 🤦‍♀️. I don't know how I didn't put two and two together there, but my therapist must have been asleep at the wheel jfc. I also remembered being a kid and reading Calvin and Hobbes and thinking I'd set their transmogrifier to girl and be a girl and getting a fuzzy feeling from that. Few other things too.

    • Transition immediately
    • Tell my partner to transition immediately and not put it off
    • Don't date the ex that traumatized me
    • Seek therapy sooner

    Not much else tbh.

  • You'll definitely want to study DevOps and SysAdmin if you're looking for general knowledge. O'Reilly textbooks are a good place to start.

    If you're website is entirely static, you can actually host it for free with Github Pages. For deploying a .NET (or really any dynamic) app you probably want to look into how to package it into a Dockerfile. That makes it platform agnostic and bundles every dependency into an easy to deploy image. After that you probably want to look into setting up Heroku to put your app on the internet. You'll also want to maybe register a domain and configure DNS if you want a proper domain name, but that's comparatively simple.

    If you're going the AWS route, you'll want App Runner or EC2 for the app itself, RDS for database, and maybe even API Gateway to sit in front of your service and route requests/terminate authentication. You could even configure everything with code using an Infrastructure-as-Code tool like Terraform.

    If you can't tell from the number of links, the barrier of entry to AWS is much higher but it's worth getting your head around depending on where you want to go. Maybe leave it until you're a bit more comfortable with building an deploying apps though, I'm mainly mentioning AWS to give you an idea of what you might want to head towards, you should probably stick with Heroku for now.

  • Deploying and administering a website/service covers multiple fields separate to programming - you're going to want to primarily look into DevOps, SysAdmin, and infrastructure. Like programming, there are a lot of areas to specialise in as well that depend on what stack you need.

    Considering your inexperience in the field, a Platform-as-a-Service product like Heroku might be a good place to start. If you need something more serious with more configuration, an Infrastructure-as-a-Service product like AWS may be better (plus they have many hosted Software-as-a-Service products for things like authentication). If you want to roll your own servers you'll want to look into Docker, which makes it simple to deploy isolated versions of your project (+ any databases) on any machine.

    All these products are well documented with guides aimed at beginners - the trick is knowing where to look ;) If you give me some specifics about your project I can probably point you at some basic guides for AWS.

    I should also give you the warning that all of these options carry some security risks if you're careless - they can be all configured wrong or exploited through vulnerabilities in your code, which can result in a large bill or (if you're running on your own infrastructure at home) put your personal data at risk.

  • Dissent is a great bar that I would highly recommend checking out if you're in Canberra. They have great food, live performances, and (as you can see from the article) are consistently on the right side of history - support them with your dollars.

  • How about you put that in a fucking spoiler tag bud

  • Hmm interesting, thanks for the link!

  • You and every other conspiracy theorist can express your unevidenced beliefs how you like, this conversation clearly isn't worth my time.

  • Do you actually have any evidence Waymo staff can remotely drive their vehicles? Or are you just tilting at windmills? I don't really appreciate the insinuation that I am some rube by someone evidently unaware of basic cybersecurity concepts.

    There are real problems with this arrangement that should be focused on rather than vague speculations - i.e. the exploitation of developing nations by the machine learning/tech industry.

  • They're running red team hacking scenarios, an extremely standard, common, and good practice in the cybersecurity industry. Any device, especially one connected to the internet, is at risk of being hacked - it would be naive to assume otherwise, so they're hiring professionals to penetrate their security before someone else does. This is actually a sign they're taking security seriously.

    Also, from the article: "they do not remotely drive the vehicles".

  • They use Vimeo's OTT platform (which makes a lot of sense especially considering Vimeo was founded at CollegeHumor/Dropout)

  • What is it with the far right and school girls?

  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    "Becoming a woman": How anti-trans activists are twisting the roots of feminism - LGBTQ Nation

    www.lgbtqnation.com /2025/12/becoming-a-woman-how-anti-trans-activists-are-twisting-the-roots-of-feminism/
  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Supreme Court overturns Queensland's controversial puberty blocker ban - ABC News (Australia)

    www.abc.net.au /news/2025-10-28/qld-puberty-blockers-judgement/105942094
  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Cass Review does not guide care for trans young people - The Medical Journal of Australia

    www.mja.com.au /journal/2025/223/7/cass-review-does-not-guide-care-trans-young-people
  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Judith Butler warns that society must resist right-wing transphobia, or else... - LGBTQ Nation

    www.lgbtqnation.com /2025/10/judith-butler-warns-that-society-must-resist-right-wing-transphobia-or-else/
  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Decades-old 'conversion therapy' resurfaces in today's trans youth healthcare debate - ABC News (Australia)

    www.abc.net.au /news/2025-10-06/conversion-therapy-trans-paper-pushed-decades-later/105850280
  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    We Must Not Posthumously Sanitize Charlie Kirk's Hateful Life - Erin in the Morning

    www.erininthemorning.com /p/we-must-not-posthumously-sanitize/comments
  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Why is the idea of ‘gender’ provoking backlash the world over? | Judith Butler

    www.theguardian.com /us-news/commentisfree/2021/oct/23/judith-butler-gender-ideology-backlash
  • Technology @lemmy.world

    The Subjective Charms of Objective-C

    www.wired.com /story/objective-c-programming-language-verbose/
  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Finding Hope And Spring On Transgender Day Of Visibility (Erin in the Morning)

    www.erininthemorning.com /p/finding-hope-and-spring-on-transgender
  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    100 Organizations Supporting Trans People in All 50 States

    www.them.us /story/orgs-fighting-back-anti-trans-legislation
  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    DIY HRT: Everything I Can Legally Tell You | Lily Alexandre

  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Mutual aid is our path forward. We all need to look out for each other in the times ahead, and we need to prepare. I am looking for cis and trans folks across the US to join a new mutual aid network.

  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    California Announces Special Session To Protect Trans People: Here's How They Could Do It - ErinInTheMorning

    www.erininthemorning.com /p/california-announces-special-session
  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    Locked

    Post-Election Message

  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    A Message to American Members of our Community

  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    As A Leading Transgender Journalist, Here’s Why I’m Endorsing Kamala Harris (Erin Reed)

    www.erininthemorning.com /p/as-a-leading-transgender-journalist
  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Transgender woman Roxanne Tickle wins discrimination case after being banned from women-only app

    www.theguardian.com /society/article/2024/aug/23/roxanne-tickle-v-giggle-for-girls-transgender-woman-wins-discrimination-case-against-women-female-only-app-ntwnfb
  • cats @lemmy.world

    Saw someone else share their elderly cat and had to show mine

  • World News @lemmy.ml

    International Criminal Court chief prosecutor seeks arrest warrants for Israeli PM and Hamas leaders

    www.abc.net.au /news/2024-05-20/icc-seeks-arrest-warrants-for-netanyahu-hamas-leaders/103871928