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  • The tipping point: what happens when deaths outnumber births?

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  • Oh, I remember my grandparents going on about it! Doomsday scenarios of hunger because of exponential population growth versus linear agricultural growth!

  • Describe your favourite and least favourite board game in one sentence

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  • You only have cards to set up your space empire, potentially trade based

    Infinite miniatures allow you to defend or attack the Shire

  • Those in countries with universal healthcare, what's it like?

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  • EU here, I was pregnant and gave birth both in Germany and in France.

    In Germany, the overall cost was 0€. It included monthly follow ups with a gynecologist, many blood exams and echos, the birth, MUCU for baby for three days, hospital stay for both of us for four days, at home visits for ten days, monthly visits with the gp for a while. Health insurance is through your work, so you pay for it via taxes but significantly less than in the US (I think my partner and I were paying just under 200€/month? It’s a percentage of income) I had 3.5 months of maternity leave at full pay, then I could stay home longer with 60% pay for up to a year cumulative with my husband.

    In France, the overall cost was a bit higher (50€) because not all blood exams are completely free, so over the first 6 months of pregnancy I payed less than 10€/month for some blood tests. Gp and gynecologist visits are free, so are the ecos and the hospital stay. I decided to pay a little extra (50€/day) to have a private room after the birth where my husband could stay overnight. It should still be conferred by my extended health insurance (not mandatory). I was also in sick leave for the white pregnancy, and for the first 3 months I had full salary, then it dropped to 1/3, the got back to 100% when I went in maternity leave (4.5 months). I decided to stay home a bit longer, without pay. My husband can also choose to stay home without pay, and has one month of paternity leave.

    I also lived in the US. Incomparable. On top of not having to pay, when there is a charge it is always stated clearly upfront, while in the US knowing what you’ll have to pay is a wild guessing game. Overall: I moved back to Europe for a reason.

  • The tipping point: what happens when deaths outnumber births?

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  • I’m so confused by these articles. They present the matter as a completely new problem, while it has been a known and slowly evolving situation since longer than I’ve been alive…

  • Opinions and thoughts on the Red Rising trilogy, by Pierce Brown

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  • I read the first book and I couldn’t get over the bad writing. The MC justification for everything is “the big baddies killed my lovely wife”, but the wife feels so one-dimensional, their love just a plot necessity. And the reminder of the wife just gets randomly sprinkled all over the book, just a couple of random sentences totally disconnected to whatever is going on at the moment.

    The MC feels both extremely young, with a memory of just a couple of pages, and like an adult already well set on his ways.

    The society could be interesting, a cool cast system à la Huxley, war games with reasonable strategies… but everything is just a flat cheap prop with no in-depth discussion, just a quick line dropped at random with no follow up.

    Overall: really do not recommend.

  • I hate April Fools Day

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  • Where I come from and where I live, April’s fool pranks are exclusively about taping paper fishes to people’s backs, usually stealthily. I always loved it - short term and fun for everyone.

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    When you actually pay attention to the lyrics of the song you're listening:

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  • “Pumped up kids”

    Edit: kicks (and I had checked the lyrics…)

  • Make Art

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  • Making art is just a part of being human. Who doesn’t doodle? Arrange something in a nice pattern? Sing a new tune under the shower?

    We have been told that only “good” art is worth making, but that’s a lie! Any art in any form is worth it because it’s worth it to the creator. Art doesn’t need an audience, at just is.

  • What book(s) are you currently reading or listening to? March 24

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  • Queen Witch by Martha Wells, second book of the Rising World.

    I knew her from the Murderbot series (amazing) and lately decided to read most of her books. Demon King (book 1) was really enjoyable and the beginning of Queen Witch seems to keep up with it.

  • What book(s) are you currently reading or listening to? March 24

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  • Oh! It has been on my “maybe” reading list for a bit! Can you give a review? Is it worth a read?

  • My 6 year old son is misgendering me

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  • I understand this sucks. A lot. And you are probably right that the birth mother is influencing your child. But you can’t let it get to you and you can’t let you anger towards it (and the birth mother) show.

    Unfortunately, it seems your child is stuck between his two parents. He will most likely lash out, now and in the future. And it will hurt.

    I don’t have a lot of advice, just some support to give. Don’t let it get to you. Your kid loves you and you love him. Acceptance (yours towards whatever he say and will say) is fundamental even in the face of anger and rejection. You are also right that with only two hours a week there is little to do. I wish you all the best.

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  • You met three days ago? And you are “basically living together”?

    Considering the length, it’s a fling. Considering you haven’t talked about it, it’s a situationship.

    My unwanted and unasked advice is to take some distance for at least a day before calling it anything at all. And then talk about expectations.

    Honestly (anecdote time!), when I started going out with my partner, I had some weird and totally personal hang ups with the word “boyfriend”. So for a couple of months they were “the person I am seeing” then became my “partner”. We had the conversation about exclusivity and such, talked about where we saw stuff going and so on, but wording was difficult. A word is just a word, as long as you both agree on the rest it doesn’t really matter much.

  • They took the fat bananas away from us rule

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  • Banana juice is a thing, and banana chips and such. Probably too small of a market to repurpose all the uncool bananas :/

  • I kinda ruined my favorite recipe by perfecting it.

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  • I hear you, but you might be able to decouple the lazy version and the fancy one. I love pasta al pesto. I have the lazy version (sauce from the store, chuck it in) and the fancy version (start with basil…). One is a comfort food in rough times, the other a delicacy I can only savor a handful of times a year. Both are great in their respective roles.

  • Victor Hugo is best known as a novelist, but he was also a master illustrator. 70 years before the surrealists, he painted these with ink, soot, coffee, and blood

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  • I must have read almost all his novels, I didn’t know at all he did illustrations too. These feel so much more fantastical then his writings…

  • Does anyone else get paralyzed on fixing small things because they're terrified of it becoming a larger thing? And how do you overcome it?

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  • Absolutely. I am not that good at home improvement (that night already be overstating my capabilities) and I am always worried that touching something will break it even worse. At best I end up researching the problem for ages, then reporting to my partner until they feel confident enough to do it, while I play support (and feel like a self-inflicted idiot)

  • If you could "skill trade", what would you trade?

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  • I would trade my very limited woodworking skills for equally limited artistic skills of any type, ideally music related.

    I would trade some other skills (really any pick) for extra house improvement skills. It’s not even that I’m bad at it, I’m just too nervous to fuck it up to even start…

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  • I never traveled solo, and don’t regret it at all. I enjoy more spending time with friends and acquaintances than doing things “my way”. I still had smaller trips on my own, arriving earlier than the rest of the group, but never enjoyed it much. So, I don’t think it’s dumb, do what you feel you will like.

  • What is your cinema hot take?

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  • I always find the first moments of movies with famous actors disconcerting. Why is Jack from Titanic here? Oh, he is not Jack from Titanic, just has his body-suit…

  • Gardening @lemmy.world
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    Advise needed for a newbie

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    How language and geography shape us

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    Homegoing by Yaa Gyasi - a personal review

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    Recommendation request: a book on the EU politics

  • Parenting @lemmy.world
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    Game suggestions for babies

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    SPOILER

    what do you think of the ending of Nona the Ninth?

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    Iliad, Odyssey and Eneides: reading advice

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    Victor Hugo: Les Misérables

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    Time to brag: what’s the hardest book you read?

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    What elements are, in your opinion, necessary to make a good book?

  • PrintSF @literature.cafe
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    What’s the difference between speculative fiction and science fiction?

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    The Silmarillion creates a mythology

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    Plainsong: instant classic