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@ FRYD @sh.itjust.works

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  • Do you believe in separating the work from the artist?

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  • Ah okay that’s the actual point you were trying to make. I personally don’t expect “infinite grace” nor do I think I deserve it. Also to that point I think if someone were to tell me my stance on something harms someone else and I still remain firm on my stance against that group, I should be vilified. With the passing of time, A consensus will be reached and I will be either right or wrong and I should be judged accordingly.

    J. K. Rowling nor I are deserving of “grace” from others simply because either of us are trying our best. That’s just not fair to the people affected by either of us.

  • Do you believe in separating the work from the artist?

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  • I dunno. I honestly believe in what I say and try to be respectful and open-minded. I’m only human, I’m sure I’m not perfectly agreeable. If I’m still alive, I imagine I’d be interested in having a conversation with someone who actually cares that much about the old comments of some random person. Maybe I could learn something from that conversation. If I’m dead, then it won’t really matter to me what happens. At least I could die knowing I tried my best.

  • Do you believe in separating the work from the artist?

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  • If the artist is still alive, then generally no. I don’t support any anti-trans artists because their beliefs and sometimes actions harm me and people I care about. It would be hypocritical and privileged of me to not apply that to artists that harm groups I’m not in.

    If the artist is dead however, I’m a bit more flexible. A vast amount of historical artists were sexist or racist or bigoted in some way by modern standards. Not to mention the art the created may be constrained by the norms of the time as well. It would be extremely difficult to find a historical artist without something to take issue with and they’re not actively harming anyone anymore.

  • What's the longest you've hid or just chilled in the restroom at work?

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  • I used to work in a sheet metal shop years ago back when I was an alcoholic. I was super hungover one day and just took a nap in the stall for an hour and change.

  • Who recognizes who around here?

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  • I only recognize PugJesus by name and there are a few regular posters on the trans communities who I recognize in their pictures.

  • How do you distract yourself from failure?

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  • Failure is self defined. To me failure is too final a term. If I tried something and it doesn’t work that was just an unsuccessful attempt or a flawed plan. I can always try again or rethink my plan.

    To better answer your question, I try to figure out what went wrong and plan my next step if it’s something important. If it’s not too important I do something else for a bit.

  • Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

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  • Maybe, but it would be huge. Most key fobs I’ve seen don’t need mounting screws either. I’m not sure about the battery holder, but any buttons on the other side would likely run through the pcb. I don’t think contact solder would be strong enough for repeated use. There would also be traces somewhere that come from the other side to the controller.

  • Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

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  • I noticed the same thing. Maybe it’s AI. I don’t see any inputs or power source and there’s no indication that there’s anything big enough on the other side to be either.

  • NSFW

    Feminine Chastity question

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  • A few notes to add about tucking and using a gaff: You shouldn’t tuck for more than 8 hours. More than 4 hours is already a UTI risk, 8 is much higher. Tucking also stops the testes from their natural temperature regulation and can overheat them if done for long periods, potentially affecting fertility.

  • What's the best film you've seen in the last few years? Doesn't matter when it came out

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  • I recently watched Rear Window. It was a fantastic movie. For such an old film, it’s aged really well.

  • What is the difference between an asshole, a jackass, and a dick head?

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  • Asshole: Someone who is rude, selfish, or both. Basically a stronger version of jerk.

    Jackass: Someone who is careless or stupid but not rude or selfish. I never call anyone a jackass, but I almost exclusively see it as a term used to deride someone you’re familiar or friendly with for being mischievous or careless.

    Dickhead: Someone who is careless or stupid as well as rude or selfish. All dickheads are assholes, but not all asshole are dickheads.

  • How do you stop arguing with people on social media?

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  • I value spreading positivity and helping people. If I think a quick comment can do that, it’s worth my time to me.

  • How do you stop arguing with people on social media?

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  • Write your comment, but ask yourself right before you hit send: “I’m gonna die one day. Is this what I want to spend time on? Is this what I want to be remembered for?” Eventually you’ll ask yourself that before you finish writing and later still you’ll ask yourself that when you think about writing the comment.

  • What advice do you have for dating in 2026?

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  • Avoid the apps like the plague. Go out to events where you can talk to people. Join hobby groups or go to hobby classes. Prioritize meeting people over finding potential partners.

    Lots of people out there don’t want to date and if you strike out at a meetup or group then people are gonna pick up that vibe and avoid you. If you really connect with someone then either you or they will pick up on it and things will progress naturally.

    That’s my method at least. If you want something more direct and with the end goal of dating, there are often single groups/events that are more explicitly focused on that. Although at the risk of sounding judgemental, that sounds like the kinda thing where everyone is gonna be reeking of desperation and the people there will be less likely to live healthy independent lives.

  • What's YOUR food hack?

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  • I like to make Velveeta mac and cheese with added quesadilla mix shredded cheese and some cayenne pepper. Makes it thick and with a little kick. Sometimes I’ll put it in a small dish and bake it until the top is brown too.

  • Those who have ever taken medications for depression or anxiety, how long before it started working from your experience?

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  • I’ve taken a bunch of anxiety meds. The only one that worked somewhat was Ativan, but I stopped after a few weeks because I was too anxious about taking it regularly and developing a benzo addiction.

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    FRYD @sh.itjust.works

    Can I get some tips and recommendations for skin care?

  • If you were to generated a completely random sequence of sounds, how long would it take to produce music or a voice?

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  • Well let’s assume there’s a functionally infinite number of sounds and a functionally infinite variety of songs and voices. The set of songs and voices is a smaller infinite set than the set of all sounds. That would make the odds per generation effectively n/∞. So essentially zero.

  • How do I actually find a job that isn't retail?

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  • You could look into a government job. It’s kinda fraught with the current administration, but there are lots of entry level government jobs with regular schedules and decent benefits.

    Another possibility is care work or whatever it’s called. I have a few friends who work in housing for the developmentally disabled and I’ve seen listings for jobs in psych wards/mental health type places that don’t have any degree requirements. There’s probably similar jobs in elder care too that don’t have any degree requirements.

  • Going out tonight!

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  • Thank you! Yeah I love it. It really brings out my curves, but the cardigan covers that and my pretty masc looking arms lol

  • Trans Joy @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    FRYD @sh.itjust.works

    Going out tonight!

  • I really like this dress, but I feel like something’s missing. Any tips on how to style it? (There’s another photo in the post)

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  • Accessories would help I think. A necklace, bracelets, and a belt. Some smaller silver pieces for the brackets and necklace. A thin neutral tone, like black or very dark brown belt. I’d personally wear the belt a bit loose so it hands unevenly on my hip. The silver adds a small accent and the belt helps emphasize your form.

  • Mycology @mander.xyz
    FRYD @sh.itjust.works

    I found this little guy on a hike a while back.

  • Mlem for Lemmy @lemmy.ml
    FRYD @sh.itjust.works

    Can we get an option to mark all crossposts of a post as read?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    FRYD @sh.itjust.works

    Would you enter a relationship with someone with genital herpes?

  • bugs @lemmy.world
    FRYD @sh.itjust.works

    What are good resources to learn about bug identification?