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  • Worth it to note: many sources inaccurately cite "62 million men" taking part in it, but that's not what CNN found or claimed. That number is the total amount of visitors to the Motherless website in February. CNN found on the scale of "over a thousand" men in the group chat they joined, and found ~20,000 videos of it on Motherless with some reaching over 50,000 views. Still horrible, and I doubt that's the only group, but it isn't 62 million at least.

  • I promise you, it's 90% due to my touch up brush. I have really shaky hands, and I'm not very practiced, so I can't get perfect nails at all without a lot of touch up lol

  • Great! I still recommend watching the first video, because like 90% of it transfers. The second video is more just focused on the challenges of short nails iirc? It's been a long time since I've seen it, tbh. Wish you the best, and have fun with your nails!

    You can usually buy a base and top coat as a bundle to save a little extra money, so get a base and top coat made for laquer (not gel). You don't have to get it from OPI, but I do recommend their stuff. For a little more money tho, they have their "Infinite Shine" polish (with its own base and top coat) that gives gel-like durability with the convenience of a lacquer. Colors are a little more limited, but I love the ones I bought! (Pictures below, and yes those are natural nails and not extensions):

  • No. What we need to do is punish oversexualization. It is not okay. Fetishization of a group of people is never okay. While I'm not a furry, I am trans, which means I know damn well how horrible it is to be constantly sexualized (also part of just existing as a woman) and fetishized.

    Let me put this into perspective for you in a way I hope you understand. Can we both agree on the fact that women do not deserve to be treated as mere sexual objects by men, but often are? Your argument then follows that men's sexualization of women for just existing should be solved by having more women who are harder to sexualize (i.e. the whole "she was asking for it by what she was wearing" shit). That is not the solution. I should be able to dress how I want to feel confident and beautiful without having to worry about some man taking that as an excuse to touch me, or worse. Furries deserve to be able to live their lives without being hypersexualized, too. The same problem fuels both: men who refuse to take responsibility and would rather blame the victim than admit fault of their own.

  • I'm going to leave 2 wonderful videos that I think will be very useful for you. The first is the one that taught me how to actually apply nail polish (on long nails): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jUUoOKZcd90 The second is a video on how to apply nail polish to short nails: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DU1dmGFHqdM

    I love these tutorials, as she gives you discrete steps, techniques, and tips for how to do things (and how to avoid pitfalls).

    As for what you need as a beginner:

    • Nail laquer (I'd recommend OPI; I've liked their stuff)
    • 100% pure Acetone (skip nail polish remover that is diluted with oils and stuff and just use this)
    • A nail art brush suitable for touch up work (because you will get nail polish on ur cuticles, and that's not a good thing; I use a Beetles nail art brush that you can find on Amazon)
    • Paper towels (to wipe the touch up brush with)
    • Something to hold acetone in so you can dip your touch up brush in it (in a pinch, the cap of the acetone would probably work, but isn't ideal bc it will be really small and easy to overfill or spill)
    • Patience

    Optional (but highly recommended):

    • Base coat
    • Top coat (Again OPI has some good offerings)

    Base coat and top coat dramatically improve the adhesion and durability of the nail laquer, as well as improving the surface finish. I would never skip either, personally.

  • It's not a cultural context, this is not a culture that we're talking about ("this" being a misguided sexualization of furry art). This is the product oversexualization and objectification created by porn consumption and sweeping generalizations. This is merely exaggerated by the fact that most people don't understand furries beyond a vague idea that it's sexual, but there are plenty of parts of furry life that are entirely non-sexual. It's a harmful generalization that objectifies furries as sexual objects, and fails to recognize that there are things other than sex on their mind in their culture (culture applies here because it is a shared group of people with similar and related ideology and interests that routinely interact with one another in community, not a disjointed, unorganized group of people that share the same misunderstanding of a group).

    You know what has a lot of porn of it? Video games. Are you gonna interpret every piece of video game fanart as sexual? Obviously that would be ridiculous. Yet it's no different than what we see here.

    Bigotry is not culture.

  • There is no reason to sexualize this image, it's just a cute drawing of a cat in anthropomorphized form. I don't see the point in drawing a conclusion that it's related to what you've said.

  • Okay, good to know. My estradiol at trough is quite low, so I think my labs would likely end up fine. I'll just make sure to get an EV prescription for 4mg every 7 days, as trough there is roughly equivalent to the 3mg every 7 days I currently take for EC. It's kinda crazy that I have adequate testosterone suppression at 135pg/mL trough. For context, that follows the expectation at estrannai.se exactly (based on this month's labs), and EC peaks at 172pg/mL where EV peaks at 318pg/mL and troughs at 112pg/mL. That's a crazy difference in hormone fluctuation (hence my apprehension towards EV). As for the progesterone, it's $10 for a 3 month supply. That's going to be much cheaper (and less annoying) than sourcing it without a prescription. I guess I'll look around and see if I can find someone who needs estradiol in the US, as it would be easy to mail. Honestly, it costs $10 for 3 vials, so I wouldn't ask for money for it. I'll just have to figure out how to find someone in need of it (if you have ideas, do let me know).

    Good to know my paranoid fears weren't unfounded, so I think I'm gonna go the route of getting an EV prescription then continuing my EC (I still have a year and a half left in my vial). Now I just have to hope I can talk my provider into monotherapy, bc I despise spironolactone (CPA isn't approved by the FDA here). Given my labs and history, I feel like I've got a pretty decent chance of that.

  • Okay yeah, my insurance claims to follow SoC 8, but I'm looking at the document that outlines gender affirming care coverage, and it depends on the surgery. For anything except genital surgery (FFS, top surgery, HRT, hair removal (yes my insurance covers laser and electrolysis), etc), it's "one required referral from individual's qualified mental health professional competent in the assessment and treatment of gender dysphoria", and for any form of genital surgery, it requires referrals from 2 independent qualified mental health professionals. Note that there is not a letter from an HRT provider required, but the surgeons I will be seeing for FFS and GRS both require a letter from an HRT prescribing provider documenting continual supervised hormone therapy for 1 or 2 years respectively. I have a therapist (LICSW) and a psychiatrist (PNP), so I have that sorted already. I've also confirmed with my insurance that my therapist is "qualified", as they've already accepted the letter I got from her (the one I'm using for HRT). And I already know my plan benefits, so I know everything will be covered (and how to find what documentation I need).

    But that was never really the question, my post was entirely about what I should do when I see the provider I'm going to get HRT from, as I've already established a stable state. I have all the documents I need detailing how to get coverage, surgery is just so far out that I haven't looked over the specific requirements in awhile.

  • My insurance uses WPATH SoC 8, so it's one letter of support from a qualified mental health provider (already have that), and one letter from my "HRT prescribing provider" certifying that I have been under their care and have completed 2+ years of HRT successfully under their guidance (or a letter stating why I need an exemption from the HRT requirement if I were to have some medical reason I couldn't get it).

  • I cannot get the image of someone trying to make out with an emu and then getting their tongue bitten off out of my head lol

  • It's the Bass Pro Shop logo colors

  • DIY HRT @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Will I need to fill my estradiol prescription to get a letter of support for insurance?

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Will I need to fill my estradiol prescription to get a letter of support for insurance?

  • While this community is very open to DIY discussion, I'd also like to point you to !diyhrt@lemmy.blahaj.zone which is specifically about DIY. Might help to cross-post if you have questions! Do be mindful of the fact that people looking at the all feed can see it though, and may not have opinions representative of community members. Mods are pretty good about shutting down harmful advice, but thought I'd mention it!

  • I've always been upset by the phrase "head over heels", as rationally it should be "heels over head". In fact, as late as the 17th century (using AD time here because that's what most people understand), it in fact was "heels over head". At some point, it just got switched around, and now we're left with a phrase that makes no sense.

  • Just by saying the letters, as it's an acronym for "be right back"

  • I haven't rewatched in awhile, is he actually transphobic?

  • I mean, it's AI generated, so it isn't going to make sense lol

  • HRT does not alter bone structure (in those who have fully developed bones). What it will do, however, is alter fat distribution in the body and face, giving a more feminine appearance. Also worth mentioning that it can affect pelvic tilt, which may appear like a bone structure change, but it's not.

  • Oh no! Guess I'll just have to kiss and lick it better :3

  • There really is so much hate in the world right now, but despite it all, I have so much love to give. Now I just need to find the right people to give it to 😮‍💨

  • Lesbians @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Going to a gay bar for the first time

  • Lesbians @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Looking for guidance on how to define my sexuality and romantic orientation

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Update on my previous post about admitting myself to a psychiatric hospital

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    I'm planning on admitting myself to a psychiatric hospital, but I have some anxieties