MrPoopyButthole

@ MrPoopyButthole @lemmy.world

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5mo ago

"Not like this. Not like this."
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MrPoopyButthole @lemmy.world 5mo ago
"What?" Says the gf after I audibly grunt to this comedic masterpiece

5mo ago

A Vibe Coded SaaS Killed My Team

We're going to see more and more of this. The tools are getting a bit better but without expert supervision and limiting the use cases for LLM generation, it's going to be a shit show.

5mo ago

What's if instead of a dead internet we end up with a dark forest internet

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MrPoopyButthole @lemmy.world 5mo ago

Thanks for the link!

5mo ago

I guess my marriage is history

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MrPoopyButthole @lemmy.world 5mo ago

First of all, this must be really difficult and I wish you strength to come through this with hope and dignity.

I lasted 12 years with my ex through good and bad times. She had her own neurodivergences and I was not adequately handling mine. I caused a lot of shit by being absent, dissociated, unhelpful etc.

Blaming myself for the failure of our relationship is not helpful. It went the way it went because of who we were at the time. I use it as motivation and a chance to learn about myself and how to be better.

Being successful with ADHD requires a kindness and gentleness to one's self. I would ask myself "Would you say these things to a stranger? Would you say these things to a friend? Then why would you say them to me?"

One of the turning points for me was to stop putting myself last and to instead put myself first. If I am strong then I can be more dependable for others. I give myself the accommodations that I need. I stopped treating myself badly. I learned how to love myself. I stand my ground when others expect too much of me. These things were integral in becoming the person that my new partner now loves and respects me for.

When two people don't work out it's no one's fault. Each is betting on a future with someone that is an accessible attractive option and often that bet doesn't yield the results they wanted but that doesn't mean it wasn't worth the time that was had. We can't tell the future. No one is perfect. Perfection doesn't even exist. We're all just muddling through the day to day. Shakespeare asked is it better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all - and there is a clear answer - its better to have loved and lost, because it wouldn't be painful if there was no substance to it.

I'd hazard a guess that you guys are probably done and that the best thing for you is distance right now. After some distance and time you'll know if there is any future. You probably already know that though.

5mo ago

Jeopardy wall calendar pretending that the coastline paradox doesn't exist

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MrPoopyButthole @lemmy.world 5mo ago

Max Planck says no...

6mo ago

"Wierdyellowmushroomycin: Towards Good, Natural Drugs Instead of Bad, Synthetic Drugs Full of Chemicals"

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MrPoopyButthole @lemmy.world 6mo ago

That's an amnita, maybe a blusher or panther cap.

6mo ago

I fixed my beard trimmer

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MrPoopyButthole @lemmy.world 6mo ago

I have a Philips from 16 years ago that is perfect. I forgot it on a trip and purchased the "new" version and it's crap. Total loss of trust now for that brand.

6mo ago

The Klingon Empire Strikes Back

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MrPoopyButthole @lemmy.world 6mo ago

Get to da choppa!

6mo ago

My octogenarian parent has a court date in a few hours. Driving under the influence. Sober as a bone and just As fucking crazy.

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MrPoopyButthole @lemmy.world 6mo ago

Sorry you have to deal with this! Old age is coming for us all if we can survive that long... Hopefully they live within range of delivery services?

6mo ago

Permanently Deleted

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MrPoopyButthole @lemmy.world 6mo ago

I was high for 20 years almost 24/7. I made some life changes and these days I get high maybe around 10 times a year. And those times that I do, its special and not just ordinary. Life is so much better when my brain can operate at a higher capacity. Not that I couldn't cope while high - I was fine, but definitely not optimal, especially with short term memory. I guess if my job was not that demanding of mental clarity it would be a different situation.

6mo ago

I find myself in this debate amongst friends and family regularly

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MrPoopyButthole @lemmy.world 6mo ago

Just because that's your viewpoint doesn't mean that everyone will automatically think that way. There would probably be some that are averse to it and some that don't care.