RBWells

@ RBWells @lemmy.world

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5h ago

What is your favourite Pokemon?
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RBWells @lemmy.world 5h ago

6h ago

PMS

Yeah I always felt best (highest libido, good appetite, slightly manic but in a pleasant way, just lots of energy) in the days right before my period, and the actual period was a big comedown and usually accompanied by a migraine.

The two nadirs in my cycle were ovulation and menstruation, both are sharp drops in estrogen so that makes sense. Progesterone runs up before the period and that I think is what made me feel good.

7h ago

Anon is a doctor

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RBWells @lemmy.world 7h ago

How many pounds? That doesn't seem possible, like how would they even get to the doctor? Hauled in the back of a truck? But they probably couldn't climb in and out.

What I find honestly shocking is the number of men (it's always men) who think they are exempt from physics, and can weigh more than BMI standards because they have muscle. No regular guy is so jacked they can be lean and obese in weight. You are fat, maybe fat and strong, yes, but fat. BMI does miss in the other direction, regularly. I am well within normal and active, still feel like I have too much fat, and it's not some dysmorphia thing, it's just so much more common to be skinnyfat than heavy lean.

8h ago

u.s. debt is larger then the entire u.s. economy

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RBWells @lemmy.world 8h ago

The house we bought is more than 3x our annual income, and our budget works ok so I don't think the absolute size of it is the problem, the problem is more that it's not being paid off, and that the money spent went into the pockets of the super-rich, and into bombs and all sorts of other counter-productive purchases.

9h ago

What is your favourite Pokemon?

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RBWells @lemmy.world 9h ago

Design-wise? Banette. The creepy doll is just such a gorgeous image.

In my heart? The goofy gang boss Honchcrow.

I do agree Gastrodon is cool.

I like this supermodel insect from another dimension too.

9h ago

My wife hates this. I love it.

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RBWells @lemmy.world 9h ago

Yeah I hate it and not even going to show it to my husband, he would be looking to buy one.

1d ago

What is your favorite smell?

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RBWells @lemmy.world 1d ago

Petrichor or slightly chlorinated water in a fountain.

In perfume - Neil Morris City Rain

2d ago

It all makes sense

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RBWells @lemmy.world 2d ago

Inheritance drives inequality. I did not expect anything from my mom.

2d ago

Which computer-related belief do you hold without any foundation?

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RBWells @lemmy.world 2d ago

My work computer runs better because I listen to music and browse the Internet not just work work work. I keep it entertained, and in return it runs better than those of my fellow employees, I have far fewer problems.

2d ago

Do you ever just sit and listen to music, or do you have to be doing something else at the same time?

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RBWells @lemmy.world 2d ago

Sometimes but never in headphones. In the living room right in the stereo spot on the couch. Mostly I listen and do, but sometimes just listen.

3d ago

Men have fewer children than women

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RBWells @lemmy.world 3d ago

Meaning now it's slightly more likely I will have kids with 2 guys, than it is that my man will have kids with me & someone else?

What social implications do they mean?

3d ago

If your child came out to you, how did you adjust?

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RBWells @lemmy.world 3d ago

I like this answer. My kid didn't have distress, really, and I'm glad. It made it oddly problematic because that's part of how they determine a kid is Legitimately Trans* here. I am A -OK with him being whoever he is, but yes I did love him as a little girl.

3d ago

Most people in open relationships will get jealous and resentful

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RBWells @lemmy.world 3d ago

Your last sentence is the way I have seen this play out most of the time. Man is restless, wants variety. Says "let's try open" Cannot find a date but wife has multiple choices of dates. Husband gets mad because wife is living the life he wanted and even if it makes her more into her husband, he doesn't see that benefit, it's not what he was after.

4d ago

Outdoor veggie and fruit gardeners, how do you protect your crops against disease and from becoming a buffet for pests and wildlife?

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RBWells @lemmy.world 4d ago

Oh my God thank you for the flames tip. Squash bugs steal my squash vines every time. I think I have to wait until I'm retired to try squash again, don't have enough time to be so vigilant but will remember that. Tried growing it in the mint patch, that worked until it got too big.

Liquid copper very very dilute once a year on my citrus trees, I keep them small(Florida - they don't mind the heat but summer is rainy season). And buy mildew resistant sturdy hybrids for everything in the garden.

Every time I think about pesticide I see bees and ladybugs and oof, start thinking about the insect apocalypse.

Growing what grows best also helps. I can grow fennel so successfully, it's happy for most of the year. Broccoli in fall to winter does well, basil loves the summer, and okra does too. Radishes, allegedly easy, are difficult here. Tomatoes grow but get bugs and if not bugs, birds! You will learn what works over time.

4d ago

Does cooking meat make you lose your appetite?

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RBWells @lemmy.world 4d ago

No. Cooking any food makes me more hungry. Even in the decades I was vegetarian it didn't bother me, honestly.

4d ago

What do you find fascinating?

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RBWells @lemmy.world 4d ago

Radio, how radio works is so remarkable. Communication systems in general, it's crazy that we ever figured any of that out.

4d ago

Most people in open relationships will get jealous and resentful

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RBWells @lemmy.world 4d ago

I have known long term swingers (not polyamory just recreational sex) and settled threesomes, and friends who swapped but only with one couple who were friends. Also guys who just really liked their wives to fuck others, one-way swingers, sort of.

But agree with the consensus, it's really hard to go from monogamous to anything else, like it's possible to HAVE an open relationship but maybe not to open an existing one.

4d ago

Do you fulfill a lot of stereotypes?

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RBWells @lemmy.world 4d ago

I love getting lost sometimes. It's about impossible for me here, because I have lived in the same place so long. But just wandering can be so cool. I had a friend who could ALWAYS face north, we were doing "pin the tail on the donkey" so blindfolded her, spun her around and around and said go, she unerringly heads right for the correct wall. So we played with making her disoriented and saying which way is north, she cannot lose it, is anchored even blind & dizzy.

4d ago

Do you fulfill a lot of stereotypes?

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RBWells @lemmy.world 4d ago

Not much. I am a middle aged white woman, do not ask for the manager or call the police. I fucking love spicy food and all kinds of music, hang out with all sorts of people. My mom used to say my taste in books and movies was that of a teenage boy. Drive a manual 6 speed car when I have to drive. Still tech support for some of my kids and definitely for my husband.

In stereotypical fashion though, I do love a fruity cocktail, use my e-reader to read smut sometimes, and am very good in the kitchen. I do yoga. Love cats!

So maybe an average amount stereotypical?

4d ago

Is this plan of mine stupid/bothersome?

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RBWells @lemmy.world 4d ago

It's normal here (Florida US) "wow that's a big watermelon". "Looks like you are having a party!" "Hey, I haven't tried that, it's good?". Or just weather or OMG your baby is so cute, or whatever. General small talk.

I remember once a lady saw me buying a diet coke and asked "does that work?"

I think the US is sort of a middle ground on random conversations. Not super friendly but not aloof.