Sounds like a shitty discord server to me lol. It doesn't seem very open minded. Sexuality is a spectrum, and you have your own unique place in it. You can pick whichever label you want, if lesbian fits you the most, that's great. I'm queer (trans/pansexual) and have friends who identify as lesbian, but under certain circumstances could/will enjoy the company of a man (or people with penises, regardless of their identity). It's 2026, we can have sexuality with nuance!
Girl I FEEL this today. Best of luck 🩷