I've seen plenty of comments online that pretty much say exactly what you said: Hytale is more just hanging out and having fun, Vintage Story is more an actual survival sim with tons of crazy deep mechanics.
I'll probably get VS then. Tbh I'm just about there, all I have to do is click "purchase"
I do have Noita and I do like it. I'm wanting something that I can also build up and play a little more long term than roguelike