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pleasestopasking

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  • What's a relationship hack you'd known sooner?

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  • These both apply to romantic and platonic relationships.

    Genuinely apologizing promptly after a fracture makes a huge difference. Avoiding it because you're conflict-averse or self-loathing will make it into a much bigger deal that is harder or perhaps not possible to repair.

    When someone tells you that you've hurt them or behaved in a way that is unacceptable to them, it's not an attack on you, but an act of love and trust.* If you don't care enough about someone to stay in a relationship with them, you leave or fade out. If you do, you give them the chance to apologize and grow.

    *Not applicable to abusive relationships.

  • For Those in America...

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  • Who is behind this site?

  • What was it like the first time you had to call 911?

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  • This all makes so much sense, thanks for sharing your perspective as an insider!

    I completely agree about reckless driving to be a vigilante being just as reckless. That's why I've never called one in before this, if they're on the highway going 90 mph they're in my view for about 30 seconds.

    In this particular case, we were in city traffic. This dude kept slamming on the gas whenever the light turned green but would still stop at the red lights. I basically "followed" him in that I kept driving the same speed and all, but skipped my intended turn in order to stay behind him. This let me catch up at the red lights enough times to get his plate and an accurate description of the car. Then I kept behind him until I was off the phone with dispatch so I could give the most up-yo-date possible cross street. I let them know that and the direction he was heading and them continued on my way home.

    This also all happened less than 1/4 mile from a police station so I was hoping something might come of it. But I live in a high-crime city with much bigger problems, so these kinds of things are often not prioritized. But I do think that these are the types of crimes that in some ways allow the worse shit to proliferate, because it allows people to engage in antisocial behavior with no consequences. I think the total disregard I see drivers engage in where I live is indicative of a deeper lack of empathy that informs criminal behavior in general.

  • What was it like the first time you had to call 911?

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  • I was driving behind someone who was going way too fast and recklessly. Not on the highway or anything, a city street that people live on, walk on, etc. When he opened his door and dropped an empty liquor bottle on the ground I called 911. Followed him as safely as I could for a little while to try to give the best info about his location. I wouldn't be surprised if they didn't even dispatch someone, let some catch him. But man, that boiled my blood. Piece of trash two times over.

  • Uh oh

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    I stopped drinking three years ago (drank 12-18 beers a day before) and I don't see any problem with hanging out in drunk discord servers

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  • Ok

  • What's the most repairable "thing" you own?

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  • Shocking with cold water when it's still hot

  • What’s you obscure low key achievement this year?

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  • Please take another pic in 3030 miles

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    Stopping drinking is hard because alcohol is one of the only things that makes me feel strong emotions

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  • That sounds really hard, man. I'm so sorry.

    Are you looking for tips or advice or just needed to commiserate?

  • I don't like my aunt

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  • What an actual literal monster. I'm so sorry that your aunt is like this and the other adults in your life haven't done anything to stop it. They should be protecting you.

  • What is the worst thing to have only available via subscription? And what isn't yet, but would be?

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  • Yo wtf

  • What is the worst thing to have only available via subscription? And what isn't yet, but would be?

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  • I am not looking forward to the day that medical implants and devices become subscription-based.

    Missed too many monthly payments? Your pacemaker gets shut off until your account is no longer delinquent.

  • Thoughts on putting down elderly pets?

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  • I was not going to subject him too either of those treatments.

    This is it for me. Chemo sucks so bad that there's are humans who decide to pass naturally instead of going through hell to get a bit of extra time–maybe. Putting a pet through chemo without their consent and not being able to explain to them why they feel so bad, that's way worse than making the decision for them to be humanely euthanized.

    I'm sorry about your doggy, and about your dad

  • Is there a good place to share modern Xmas songs across the Fediverse? (I'll lead off with a couple...)

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  • Uncle John by Jonathan Colton

    "Your uncle's late again, last minute Christmas shopping at the airport, a dozen ringer tees he bought at Eddie Rickenbacker's bar–ladies extra extra large" is such a mood

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    What is the worst thing to have only available via subscription? And what isn't yet, but would be?

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    Where to post gig work openings?

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  • No.

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    Crows are intelligent birds and learn quickly – even from each other. In Sweden, they are used to collect cigarette butts and bring them to a machine that automatically rewards them with peanuts.

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  • What is your go-to karaoke song?

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  • I wish I could ever have as good of a go-to karaoke song as that skinny white dude who got overcome by the spirit of Shaggy

    Say It Ain't So by Weezer is a good one to get the entire bar singing along. Semi-Charmed Life by Third Eye Blind is good to get people try to sing along and then they realize they don't actually know the words and wait did he just say crystal meth??

  • Have you ever had premonition, a sixth sense, a third man, or inner voice that saved you?

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  • I was taking a little me time at a cabin. Pretty remote, a 45 minute drive down a dicey mountain road to the beginning of civilization (a convenience store and a church). I was there solo to unwind.

    One night I made a nice little fire down a hill from the cabin, maybe 40 yards away. Around 10, I put the fire out and started back up to the cabin. The porch lights were on and throwing some nice ambient light, so I decided not to turn my headlamp on and harsh the vibe with blue light. I couldn't easily see the ground where I was starting from, but the path was well-maintained gravel and I was familiar the terrain.

    After ten feet, I froze. I'm a person who struggles to trust my instincts sometimes. But my lizard brain was picking up on something not consciously perceptible, and I have never before or since had every part of my screaming that something was wrong.

    I turned on my headlamp and saw, about twenty feet up the path, a fucking rattlesnake. Then I immediately started second-guessing myself. Do we even have rattlesnakes in this part of the country? And it didn't even rattle, isn't that their whole thing? Also it's night, aren't they active in the daytime with the sun? I stared without moving an inch, barely even breathing, just silently gaslighting myself. After a few minutes it continued on its way and finished slithering across the path back into the woods.

    I ran up the rest of the hill and into the house. Promptly grabbed my phone and typed "rattlesnake [regional area I was in]" in the search bar. So, it turns out there are rattlesnakes there, and yeah their pattern is exactly the same as the one I saw. Something primal in my body knew, and I'm really glad I listened to it.

  • Reddit is controlled by Bots - protect your opinions

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  • Love when the Google AI pulls an answer from reddit that was bro clearly a dry, sarcastic joke and presents it as the correct answer.

  • ADHD @lemmy.world
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    Do any of y'all play video games like a normal person?

  • WomensStuff @piefed.blahaj.zone
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    Anyone else have the perimenopause blues?

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
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    Why are drivers for food delivery apps so often listed wrong?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
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    What's your harmless/low-stakes conspiracy theory?

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world
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    Microplastics will be the "boomers all have lead poisoning" of millennials

  • ADHD memes @lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    It's almost 2pm, I'm still in bed

  • Interstellar App @kbin.earth
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    Feature suggestion: title wrap in compact mode

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
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    What should Americans throw into the Gulf of Mexico to protest the passing of this bill?

  • cats @lemmy.world
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    Why are cats so cute when they clean their feet 😭

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
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    What's your best tip or hack for camping?

  • Gaming @beehaw.org
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    What are your favorite metroidvanias?

  • ADHD memes @lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    So, anyone in here playing Blue Prince?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
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    What are you best decluttering tips?

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world
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    Pico de gallo is fruit salad

  • Reddit @lemmy.world
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    1 day ban for quoting the former CEO of a Costco

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
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    What's something you grieved for "too long"?

  • Food and Cooking @beehaw.org
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    What are your favorite meals to bring to new parents for spring and summer babies?

  • Asklemmy @lemmy.ml
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    Have you or someone you know ever fallen for a scam? What happened?

  • Asklemmy @lemmy.ml
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    What apps have you tried to "de-google" yourself?