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reedbend

@ reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

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  • My autistic ass

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  • I got around this by developing smart playlists which rotate in stuff I like based on tags and then filtered by how recently the songs were heard or skipped.

    However, this requires a truly autistic dedication to not only maintaining a local music collection, but tagging the shit out of it, and developing complex queries (in Quod Libet) to make smart playlists for all manner of different moods & hankerings.

    If you are a computer-touchy autist with a local music collection though, Quod Libet might just be the tool for you. I do abuse playlists as tags because the UX is better in a lot of ways.

  • How do y'all feed yourselves?

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  • this is how I made it thru college

  • Gaza genocide

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  • I'm mostly able to disconnect which is scary, even tho I make a point to share info about the situation. People have to know what is happening.

  • DAE experience unstoppable energy drain from being perceived

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  • masking isn't something that I can "stop" doing, it generalized and became permanent at age 12.

    I have been quite fairly described by more than one shrink as having blunted affect, which describes my level of displayed emotion, not how strongly I feel it.

    so, I can only "unmask" to some degree around ... well, he's dead. so nobody.

  • Managed to get SimpleX to run on my system, where's the group for that?

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  • any thought on a Signal group?

  • AuDHD @lemmy.world
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    DAE experience unstoppable energy drain from being perceived

  • how🥲🥲 is this 🥲possible?? ? 🥲

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  • what's crazy is when I was in DBT I met somebody actually diagnosed with ASD who shares a lot of the same auditory sensitivities I have, but like... way worse. and with misophonia and such. the sensitivity scale goes way higher than most humans will ever understand.

  • how🥲🥲 is this 🥲possible?? ? 🥲

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  • are you being distracted by their quiet but active activities or something?

    correct, I got the "no perceptual filter for anything happening inside the house," "can never stop masking unless alone" autism combined with being homeless and thus crashing on a couch with no door I can close

  • Autism @lemmy.dbzer0.com
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    how🥲🥲 is this 🥲possible?? ? 🥲

  • It's Thursday 04/10/2025. Hey, What's Going On!

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  • every month, I need to fill the same prescriptions I've had for between 10 and 20 years.

    every month, one or more persons whose job it is to get those pills into my hands without interruption, fucks it up.

    as a result, the stash of critical medication which I jealously hoard as a hedge against this exact problem (as well as natural disasters, etc) grows smaller. I now have about 7 days remaining. I will rapidly become sick and then completely nonfunctional if I miss my meds for even a day.

    it's now crystal clear that the American health care system is not designed to help me with this problem, and that it has no intention of ever doing so.

  • It's Wednesday 03/26/2025. Hey, What's Going On!

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  • oh, you also got the "can never, ever, ever 'tune out' any type of speech sound" autism? it's currently destroying my life and has been doing so for nearly a decade btw 🥲

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  • Melatonin is a clock-setting hormone, not a sleep aid, and most of the supplements on the (US) market have waaaaay too high a dose. I get excellent results from 150ug (0.15mg) taken 4 hours before bedtime at the same time every night, and I suffered from delayed sleep phase syndrome for decades before figuring this out.

    Dumping an entire bathtub full of melatonin (relatively speaking) into one's brain leads to more problems than it solves, and it's not even a very good sleep aid on top of that. Because its actual function is as a clock-setting molecule.

  • Air pollution emerges as critical environmental risk factor for autism, emerging topic review finds

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  • Industry also causes air pollution and plenty of it. It's more visually segregated in developed countries. But as an example, have you ever explored the Pakistani factory video genre on Youtube?

  • being deprived of solitude long enough will eventually kill me.

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  • I also know not everybody will be fine and be able to cope better if left alone. I will, but it was a long damn journey to get to where I'm able to say that with confidence. If you're somebody who needs to be alone but won't be fine if you are, I see you too.

  • Autism @lemmy.world
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    being deprived of solitude long enough will eventually kill me.

  • Need noise cancelling headphones recommendations

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  • Sony's current cheap models are a lot better than the XM3s. I know that pressure sensation, I'd given up on all noise canceling headphones because I hate it, but tried a pair of (cheap!) Sony WH-CH720N and that sensation is 98% reduced, it only appears a little if there's a ton of bass noise in the environment. But even then, it's not nearly as bad as most other (older) NC headphones I've tried.

  • Need noise cancelling headphones recommendations

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  • Aka "musicians earplugs" ... which can be premade, or if you actually want the best fidelity, custom molded to fit your actual ear canal! Had a gf who was a post-punk musician once, she absolutely swore by her custom pair.

  • Need noise cancelling headphones recommendations

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  • Hi, I would recommend the Sony WH-CH720N as punching way above their weight for a $100 pair.

    I am someone who didn't like noise canceling headphones which I tried before, since older models all seemed to cause a sensation of "pressure" on my eardrums which felt like having dead meat behind saran wrap smushed up against them. The Sony WH-CH720N have about 98% removed that sensation, which means I can actually wear them for more than 10 minutes.

    The noise canceling feature isn't perfect - you can of course still hear some noise - but it's about as good as the Bose Quiet Comfort 3 pair which cost a LOT more than the Sony.

  • How does one even live like this?

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  • They feel the same about me when I decline the opportunity to get shitfaced drunk and banter over 17 games of "Mexican train dominoes" for the 59574th time.

  • How does one even live like this?

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  • The only person I have to babble at has level 2 autism and can only process a finite (and very small) number of words per day before she combusts 😭

  • Autistic Adults @lemmy.ml
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    emergent properties of the syndrome

  • How does one even live like this?

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  • when self-hating people who've learned a little about genetics and evolution pipe up with "why are we even still in the gene pool" sadposts ... this is why. overall, this style of thinking is a net positive to the proliferation of Homo sapiens, and every now and then even a net positive to the people who embody it.

  • Autistic Adults @lemmy.ml
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    Noise-canceling headphones have improved.

  • Autistic Adults @lemmy.ml
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    the sensation of being unable to contain the knowledge in my head

  • Aspergers @lemmy.world
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    “No Way Out Except From External Intervention”: First-Hand Accounts of Autistic Inertia

    www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov /pmc/articles/PMC8314008/
  • Autistic Adults @lemmy.ml
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    “No Way Out Except From External Intervention”: First-Hand Accounts of Autistic Inertia

    www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov /pmc/articles/PMC8314008/
  • Autistic Adults @lemmy.ml
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    Yo, how bad does autistic burnout get before it becomes something more serious?

    old.reddit.com /r/aspergers/comments/17n3qvx/yo_how_bad_does_autistic_burnout_get_before_it/
  • AuDHD @lemmy.world
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    shout out to anybody facing homelessness due to neurodivergence

  • Autistic Adults @lemmy.ml
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    shout out to anybody facing homelessness due to neurodivergence

  • Acquiring medication now takes up nearly an entire day every month (because of the DEA)

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  • Between this and the manufacturer/DEA created "shortages" it's brutal out there.

  • AuDHD @lemmy.world
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    consensus/discussion driven to a fault?

  • ADHD @lemmy.ml
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    consensus/discussion driven to a fault?

  • ADHD memes @lemmy.dbzer0.com
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    v thoughtful suggestion, I had not considered

  • Autistic Adults @lemmy.ml
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    who else's brain takes a long time to "warm up" or stabilize after waking?

  • Autistic Adults @lemmy.ml
    reedbend @discuss.tchncs.de

    the experience of being perceived