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  • I messed up my back years ago. Sometimes I work sitting down for hours. Here’s how I’ve managed:

    • Physical therapy and Gold Medal Bodies to learn how to move and strengthen what needs to be strong
    • Watching and following Olivier Girard videos. His approach requires naturally using certain muscles while sitting, so maybe this won’t work for everyone. His approach also means that breaks are a must. I cannot sit for too long. Every half-an-hour or so I get up and move.
    • Getting good enough chairs and desks. I followed Girard’s guide to buying chairs and desks. This means I can sometimes work for more than half-an-hour straight by lifting my desk so that I can work standing.

    Hope this helps! And best of luck with your back

  • Edit: What I say below is no longer true. They seemed to fix it

    The query

    anti-fascism

    results in funny results. The first page has absolutely nothing about fascism (nor anti-fascism) and it's only when you click on "show me more" that you actually get anti-fascism results.

  • THIS.

    Lots of other comments talk about economic hardship. Yes, that’s part of the story, but there are very wealthy people in very wealthy countries who don’t have children. And there also are very poor people in very poor countries who have lots of children.

    I guess the question I would ask is:

    • If economic hardship is your theory, why do very poor people in very poor countries have lots of children?

    So the story is not entirely about money. It’s also about the factors you mentioned.

  • I guess compliment somehow works, but I wonder if what was meant was complement?

  • I bought my calendar because it had cute animals

  • What is the “other” in the top right that directly feeds into “Net profit”?

  • It depends. What’s the context? What’s the purpose or goal?

    If the goal is to evaluate technical merit or the chemical composition or the audio waves or the pixels, then the artist may be trivial.

    If the goal is to establish chains of causality, bolster or undermine moral stances, or simply understand the context of a piece of work, then the artist is central.

    Context and purpose are crucial.

  • These are contextual. Some people could say “absolutely” or “for sure” or “obviously”, and yet they could appear arrogant instead of being persuasive.

    If you’re going for persuasive frames, I think it’s best to frame an argument around empathy. If you can prove that you understand someone else’s problems, they’ll be more open to you and your proposed solution.

    Of course, this is easier said than done.

  • Damn. That’s creepy. Have you considered using alternative search engines? Startpage? Kagi? DDG?

  • You hurt because you care. You care because you hurt.

    You care about your cat, about your partner, and about your relationship. This is important to recognize. It's important to give this its proper space, not minimizing it but also not making it define your life.

    What I mean is that sometimes, our brain tells us things that are helpful and sometimes it tells us things that are unhelpful. Sometimes, our brain becomes a dictator. This dictator avoids pain at all costs. It looks at pain as something that needs to be solved.

    Here's the thing: emotional pain cannot be solved in the same way that physical pain can sometimes be solved. We can fix broken bones. We can heal skin wounds. But we cannot magically solve emotional pain. Why? Because we hurt where we care.

    Here's a way to look at emotional pain: would you want to be the kind of person that doesn't feel pain when their loved ones die? I bet you wouldn't. And that is human. It is a way of looking at emotional pain with dignity.

    Here's another way of giving some dignity to the pain of losing someone: humans hurt when loved ones leave because we have a yearning to belong. This is not even a cultural thing or otherwise a learned thing. It is pre-verbal. Grab a baby and look at its eyes, and its brain will be flooded with endorphins. We are wired for connection. Most mammals are too. And some mammals have specifically evolved to live with us. An example of this is your cat: it comes from a lineage that has learned to live with people.

    So what can we do about this emotional pain? For one, being open to it and being aware of it. It is a part of your life and it is worth holding with dignity. You can look at this pain as if you were holding a delicate flower. What's its shape? What's its color? Its texture? Its inner consistency? Its power? This exercise helps with coming to terms with tough experiences. It helps us accept problems that can't be solved.

    You can also choose to actively engage with your life in a way that you find meaningful. What kind of person do you want to be? What do you want to stand for? How would you like to approach life? This puts you in the driver's seat. And you will feel your emotions pulling you aside. They will tell you that you have to stop driving, that you have to solve problems that can't be solved. Your dictator will not like the pain. And yet you can listen to your dictator talk in the copilot seat and choose to drive.

    This is what grief sometimes looks like: emotions that come and sometimes overwhelm you. What I'm suggesting is that you can be open to them, be aware of them, and choose how you want to engage with life.

    If you do this, your partner will notice. There are wild studies that show that psychologically flexible people are able to make others around them more psychologically flexible. It's been measured in the context of traumatic experiences like pediatric surgery and natural disasters: parents who are psychologically flexible are a safety net for their children, and those kids are less likely to be traumatized and more likely to be psychologically flexible later in life.

    What I'm saying is that you can model psychological flexibility and that will probably have an impact.

    I hope this helps. Let me know if you're interested in where my thinking comes from and I can point to some resources.

    I'm sorry for the tough situation you're in. Best of luck.

  • Yup. Unfortunately. If you’re curious, look up the World Values Survey and the expanding circles of empathy.

  • If we examine this dispassionately, maybe this isn’t such a useful perspective. Governments around the world use their power/capacities to educate citizens, to connect people through transportation systems, to bring clean drinking water to people, etc..

    Do we want our governments to stop mass education? Do we want our governments to stop connecting people? Do we want governments to stop bringing clean water to people?

    In addition, a government is a complex system. It is not linear or monolithic.

    This leads me to the conclusion that we should seek more of the good stuff and less of the bad stuff.

  • I guess they told that to you as well, given you are right here

  • Yeah, the green number shows the improvement, and Babbel users improved more. What the green number doesn’t tell you is how much time it took to get there. If you look at that, Babbel is more inefficient than LingQ and Rosetta Stone.

  • Thx for your ethical considerations 🙏 here’s another important cause

  • I have a suggestion that is not FOSS, but it is privately held so the pressure to be profitable each quarter is not at all the same as publicly held companies.

    Check out the privacy policies of LingQ and Rosetta Stone. Idk if they’re good, but I know they’re the most efficient language-learning apps right now. They require the least amount of minutes using them to achieve the highest scores in standardized language tests.

  • This is just so evil. The hubris and ignorance behind this shitty manifesto…

    Everything about Palantir is baffling, but I just want to point out one section. It is so disgustingly self-serving. It is the ideology of a child playing king with his little friends:

    “The decadence of a culture or civilization, and indeed its ruling class, will be forgiven only if that culture is capable of delivering economic growth and security for the public"

    Oh how very convenient for those despotic assholes. It’s insane for someone to articulate such blatantly self-serving discourses. And it’s even more insane how people on X will be licking Palantir’s boots gladly.

    Just… gimme a sec. Gotta take a deep breath and go touch grass or something.

  • Asklemmy @lemmy.ml

    Oddly specific question, but has anyone here had or known of someone who had an epileptic pet? If so, could you help me understand some stuff?

  • movies @piefed.social

    Tried to pay Netflix to watch a specific movie… and it was hell.

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world

    What's a TV series that you really, really liked and would enthusiastically recommend?

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world

    If contemporary professional comedians were magically taken to the Paleolichic, they'd probably work much earlier in the day. Back then, there were no Late Night Shows or well-lit comedy clubs.

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world

    Really tall people see others differently. For example, they see more of others' heads and less of others' bodies. They also see more of the background.

  • Videos @lemmy.ml

    How bread tabs changed the world (through a massive conspiracy)

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world

    stalagTite and stalagMite: The "t" in stalactite looks like a stalactite, hanging from the ceiling. Similarly, the "m" in stalagmite looks like a stalagmite, rising from the floor.

  • You Should Know @lemmy.world

    YSK you can poison your personal data to fight against surveillance capitalism.

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world

    Where can I find videos of JD Vance getting booed at the Olympics, given that most show cheering? Even Team USA commented, so booing happened. But I can’t find videos :(

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world

    You can answer questions and question answers.

  • Funny @sh.itjust.works

    I cried with this: "Bro Sacrificed His Lungs For The Right Note"

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world

    In the phrase “a long-winded response”, “winded” can be pronounced as in “wind” or as in “wind”, and both make etymological sense.

  • Pens & Paper @lemmy.ml

    I discovered that pens don’t have to suck

  • Today I Learned @lemmy.world

    Today I learned there's an amazing Wikipedia article detailing the bullshit that Trump has said over the years

    en.wikipedia.org /wiki/False_or_misleading_statements_by_Donald_Trump
  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world

    Phrases like “I am here” or “Are you here yet?” are used today more than in the past because of cellphones.

  • rpg @ttrpg.network

    I now build pretty scenarios in half the time because of markup languages

  • You Should Know @lemmy.world

    You should know how to coil cables

  • rpg @ttrpg.network

    Daggerheart: I expected another Dungeons and Dragons, but found something much, much better

  • Mildly Interesting @lemmy.world

    Today I said something I never thought I would say. I said "An LLM once told me…".

  • Getting things done @lemmy.ml

    How to deal with or prevent a Someday/Maybe list being overwhelming?