Typo in my second sentence made it harder to understand.
All I meant was hope is often considered a universal good. Trying to explain why that isn't the case goes against years of programming for most people.
The point is simply that both sides are not the same, and would not produce the same result. Even if the difference boils down to the size of the shit sandwich.
I'm sorry to hear that :(
There's a lot of effort and dedication you're saying goodbye to.