I have this weird thing after weed where I slow down. Like my perception of the world and time slows down to the point where walking is painful because my steps are too slow. Try walking where each step takes a full 6 seconds, it's actually hard work. Nobody can understand me either because I'm talking too slowly. The dangerous part is gravity stays normal so I can't stop myself falling over like a statue if I fuck up 😂. I haven't found anyone else yet where this weirdness happens to them. No anxiety though, so that's a plus
People are being weird to you, but I just wanna say that raising a child and co-living with a life partner are completely different things and skill sets.
There's no rule book that says you need to have a partner to have a child or raise them well. Ignore anyone who says this. If you just got out of a toxic relationship, it's completely normal and healthy not to want to jump back in the dating pool. I got out of an abusive relationship a few years ago, and I have 0 plans to remarry or even open a dating app.
The average relationship takes a huge amount of work, often fails, and the average divorce time is 10 years. If you don't want to deal with another adult for a while, there's zero shame. You're not doing it wrong, you're not missing anything vital. You probably already know all this but I'm just giving reassurance.
Kids are much simpler than adults, but harder work. You can get into a routine and life kind of goes on autopilot, and you solve problems as they come up. It's hard work but it's typically uncomplicated work, without the emotional manipulation.
Only one warning I will say: make sure you're in a good headspace going into it. The last thing you want is for any unresolved damage from the relationship to come out as an emotional reaction to something your child does. Then it turns into generational trauma.
When I'm out by myself with the kiddo I don't feel judged at all. If anything some people compliment me on it, which feels like being complimented for not being neglectful but I'll take it.
It feels dangerous to play or even talk with other people's kids though, but that's a different thing.
A.I. has quietly added quietly to everything. You can tell if a YouTube video script has A.I. assistance if they say quietly a lot. I dunno why it's obsessed with that word. Sneaky fuckers
I'll raise a counterpoint then: how many independent countries are now known as "China"? The difference is that the Roman Empire fell apart, and everyone kind of reverted to their original culture or became something new. Same thing happened in Greece after the centuries-long Turkish occupation and war crimes complicated events.
The analogy is very messy now and it doesn't make sense anymore ~😂~. But I guess the end result is that it's not so simple at which point one nation ends and another begins. Real history is messy and once you actually look into it, it's not a simple thing at all.
In the first place "Greece" wasn't even one thing, it was a messy collection of city-states and alliances that kind of got along sometimes. I think many places in the world was like that back then, actually. Then Alexander the Great happened and a lot of the world was Greece. Then it wasn't. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
So yeah. You can make things as complicated or as simple as you feel like.
Level 1 complicated: it's a 9000 year old ancient Greek skeleton
Level 2: it's an ancient skeleton found in what is now known as Greece
Level 3: it's a Pelasgian skeleton
I wouldn't call level 1 "incorrect". I would call it "simplified". People who know Greece didn't exist 9000 years ago will already know the truth. Everyone else won't really care. But I know many people here on Lemmy are "semantics enthusiasts".
Yeah exactly. I'll never have "good sleep" because my nervous systems are basically rusty and they can't fix that unfortunately. But even in my case, I still got "better sleep" than before by making some improvements. Anecdotally, quitting sugar was the most beneficial change for me personally.
The analogy isn't quite right. It's more like, hypothetically, if those native people were left relatively undisturbed and not displaced. Then, hundreds of years later, their descendents are now a large proportion of New York. I would probably call them New Yorkers, yes. I don't know much about Native American history, so let me know if I'm off the mark somewhere here.
I say "relatively" because Greek people had a lot of… let's say… neighbourly troubles, and it got very "complicated" for a long time. But we still call the people living there Greek, even if their bloodline DNA is very mixed bag now. I did an Ancestry thing out of curiosity, so I should know, even though my family and I are 100% born there.
Yeah this looks completely wrong to me... Like sure, they would look very different, but they wouldn't be indistinguishable from men. Even from an evolutionary perspective that's just silly.
Even today we have women that have "facial bone structures we associate with masculinity" as they describe. It's not like we are working blind and trying to reconstruct a dinosaur or an extraterrestrial. Though maybe for some scientists, women are similarly rare.
I looked up some examples of "masculine women faces" online in 2 minutes. Even though they look "masculine", they clearly don't look like Gigachad or whatever this reconstruction is.
The name Pelasgians (Ancient Greek: Πελασγοί, romanized: Pelasgoí, singular: Πελασγός Pelasgós) was used by Classical Greek writers to refer either to the predecessors of the Greeks, or to all the inhabitants of Greece before the emergence of the Greeks. In general, "Pelasgian" has come to mean more broadly all the indigenous inhabitants of the Aegean Sea region and their cultures.
It depends on what you mean by "existed". They're the ancestors of Greeks, and they lived in what is now Greece, but didn't call themselves that name. As a Greek, to me they're "Greek by ascent", so the distinction is a bit trivial.
I had a really rough time once I finished school and was released into the world. It was like I left prison and didn't know what to do or how to act. I had a lot of "reactive" emotions and actions from years of living in that environment, that confused and scared me. I didn't understand myself at all, why I did things, why things upset me that others are fine with. I hated the way I acted and who I was, I didn't want to be that way, it felt like I wasn't "myself" or in control. People around me were confused and concerned.
Therapy helped, just having someone to talk to and say things out loud was really important. It didn't fix it, but I could see the shape of my childhood better. "Oh this behaviour comes from this trauma" kind of thing. Then the life-long process of untangling it began.
I've made a lot of progress, but I'll never be finished. Something will set you off and will take a long time to work through, and you'll keep finding little things. Like recently I discovered that I hate when people misrepresent me or lie about me or paint me in a bad light, because as a kid when that happened I would get severe institutional violence. If my reputation was attacked, I was in real physical danger. As a result, today I get really angry and defensive even about really minor misrepresentations that don't matter at all. Still working on that one.
It's all about self-improvement. Becoming who you want to be, not who you had to be to survive. Sometimes you don't know who you want to be, just that you don't like who you are now, and that's ok too.
It's interesting after you read the news, it feels like the world is on fire. But if you step outside, the grass is still green, when you were expecting ashes
I have this weird thing after weed where I slow down. Like my perception of the world and time slows down to the point where walking is painful because my steps are too slow. Try walking where each step takes a full 6 seconds, it's actually hard work. Nobody can understand me either because I'm talking too slowly. The dangerous part is gravity stays normal so I can't stop myself falling over like a statue if I fuck up 😂. I haven't found anyone else yet where this weirdness happens to them. No anxiety though, so that's a plus